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Published Dec. 18, 2021, 9:04 a.m. by Jennifer Appoh (

I woke up yesterday morning trying to prepare for my uncle's one-week celebration. A black dress was needed so I got one. It needed to be made perfect so I had to take my time to thoroughly iron the dress. I kept pressing the iron against the cloth. I needed it to be perfect. I kept pressing the iron on the dress till I got that perfection. Then it hit me! How does the dress feel about this? I know it sounds ridiculousđŸ˜‚. But supposing the dress had feelings, would it feel that I was being fair to it? I was so focused on getting that perfect look that I never stopped to consider how it felt.

What am I trying to say? This is how we operate in our relationships sometimes. We are so focused on making it perfect that we often miss the part where we consider how our partners feel. "It has to be perfect," we say. Sometimes, we get it and lose what we had as a couple. Other times, we lose what we have altogether because we don't get it.

Perfection: Is it real or an illusion? Happiness: Is it given or gotten? I think relationships are being destroyed because we overly seek perfection. Don't get me wrong. You need to feel seen, loved and accepted in your relationship. When you don't get these things, you should be worried but while seeking it how do you go about it? 

Do you press it so hard without thinking about how the other party feels? Do you just push and damn the consequences? Guess what? You will get what you are looking for after pressing it but at what expense? How will it feel then? Will you be super excited about the outcome? What will the outcome even be?

Every now and then, we say our goodbyes. Are they all supposed to have been goodbyes? I said goodbye to my uncle đŸ’”. I can't do anything about it. Can you do something about the overly pressed goodbye you said?  

Let's ponder on these questions and search deep in ourselves and our relationships.

Again, how are you pressing your dress?

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